Dependency.
Over the years, this word has gained much negative press. We have heard about drug and alcohol dependency running rampant in our society. We have also heard of co-dependency disrupting our social and romantic relationships.
Yet, we are called in Scripture to be “dependent” upon God. The word seems to be at odds with itself at first glance. But, with further consideration, I believe that we can see where things diverge in this discussion.
I think that the biggest differentiator between the outlooks mentioned here is that on the negative side of things, the dependence is in the form of an unnatural ‘crutch’ that holds us up in our minds. It is a ‘strength’ that unnaturally comes from a negative application of thin support or emotional alteration—a momentary injection of courage or backbone. A leaky life preserver flung out for us to tightly cling to in times of trouble or need.
Depending on God in our lives is none of the above.
He is our anchor. He is our solid rock, offering sure footing in all times and situations. From Him flows a steady and dependable stream of love, care and mercy. He is able to provide peace, strength and direction when we feel lost and alone. And He is not looking for something in immediate return. He does not give while secretly taking in the background. He is not changeable, neither in that moment; nor over time.
Keep me safe, my God, for in you I take refuge. – Psalm 16:1
If you have ever been caught in a torrential downpour outside, you know the relief you feel when you finally get in under shelter from the elements. It is a peace and safety that had been removed from you amid the storm. It is a place to catch your breath and be at better ease. This is the LORD’s gift to you, in good times and bad. He is a strong tower where you can be protected and lifted up.
And in that place, there is no judgment nor condemnation for failures or mistakes. God lovingly shares His wisdom and words of comfort. He removes our fears and holds us close in His loving arms.
Many things can seemingly offer strength and comfort. But, when applied over the long haul, they shrink back or fall away completely. They abandon me when I most need help. Or they demand that I surrender more and more of myself to them and their ‘private’ agendas. This is not dependable! This is momentary and fleeting.
I need to look past the simple quick-fixes, and gaze upon that which is ever-lasting and true:
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6 (NLT).